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Description
The D-Word is a practical guide to support relatives, friends and carers who are coping with the distress and anxiety of someone nearing the end of life, or who has suddenly died.
Today, life-extending treatments have over-ridden care for the soul. Death is regarded as a medical failure, and usually hidden away in hospitals, hospices, nursing homes and mortuaries. We have lost the ability to talk openly about the end of life. It's frightening to know how to talk to a relative or friend who is dying, or to someone who has been suddenly bereaved but unless we confront this fear, important things can remain unsaid or incomplete, which often turns into unresolved grief, guilt and anger.
Personal stories from people from all walks of life explore the different ways they have come to terms with the dying process or the sudden death of their spouse, partner, parent, friend or child, how they have confronted their fear of talking about it, and ways in which they found support during this very difficult time.
Table of Contents
Personal Stories
Structure
A personal Note
SECTION ONE: DENIAL OF THE D-WORD
Spiritual Values
An Entitlement to Life
The Effect On the Natural World
SECTION TWO: DAYS GONE BY
The Mediaeval Ars Moriendi
From Home to Hospital
The Media
SECTION 3: DYING FROM A MEDICAL PERSPECTIVE
The GP: The First Port of Call
The Intensive Care Anaesthetist: Difficult End-of-Life Decisions
The Palliative Medicine Consultant: Clear Communication
The Palliative Care Clinical Nurse Specialist: Planning the Best Place to Die
The Hospice Nurse: The Importance of Listening
The Nursing Home Carer: Importance of Acting Normally
SECTION 4: FAITH MAY HELP
The Bishop: The Easter Story
The Muslim Chaplain: Testament of Faith
The Rabbi: A Ritual Path
The Buddhist: the Importance of Community
The Hindu: Karma and Reincarnation
SECTION FIVE: HAVING THE CONVERSATION
Broaching the D-Word
When Relatives Are in Denial
When the Dying Person Doesn't Want to Know
When There's No Resolution
When Children Are Not Allowed to Talk
SECTION 6: SUDDEN OR VIOLENT DEATH
A Brother's Murder
A Car Crash
A Sudden Heart Attack
A Miscarriage
Coping with Suicide
SECTION 7: FINDING SUPPORT
Speaking Euphemistically
Not Everyone Experiences Grief
Breaking Bad News
Breaking Bad news Guidelines
WHAT CAN BE DONE TO TACKLE THE D-WORD?
SECTION 8: A PRACTICAL GUIDE TO SUPPORT THE DYING
Introduction
Saying Goodbye
How to Listen Well
Life Reviews
The Dying Process
End-of-Life Experiences
Transpersonal End-of-Life Experiences
Final Meaning End-of-life Experiences
Dreams
How to Tell the Difference Between End-of-Life Experience or Drug-Induced Hallucination?
What Should I do if my relative or Friend has Dementia?
What Should I do if I can't be there at the end?
Being There at the End
The Use of Gentle Touch
Choosing the Moment to Go
What Happens Physically When Someone Dies?
When Death Happens
What You Can Expect to Feel Immediately After
Things Relatives Might Need to Think About
Stopping Life-Extending Treatment
Family Dynamics
Practicalities to Consider
At the Bedside
Suggestions for friends
What to Do
What Not to Do
Looking Back
What Helped
What Didn't Help
Summary
A FINAL FEW WORDS
SOME HELPFUL CONTACTS
Product details
Published | 21 Jan 2010 |
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Format | Paperback |
Edition | 1st |
Extent | 192 |
ISBN | 9781441186799 |
Imprint | Continuum |
Illustrations | 20 |
Dimensions | 216 x 138 mm |
Publisher | Bloomsbury Publishing |