The Gay Man's Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage

Michael Dale Kimmel (Author)

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Legal gay marriage is still a relatively new phenomenon.

As gay men who are now able to get married, we find ourselves in a bit of a quandary: for many male couples, sex is a lot more important for us than it is for heterosexuals. Two married men often have a stronger desire for sex - wanting more of it and with a wider variety of partners - than married opposite-sex couples. How does this work within the structure of a monogamous marriage? Is an open relationship a better structure for gay marriage?

Assuming that gay marriages will emulate heterosexual marriages is neither a valid nor a helpful assumption. But, as gay men, where does that leave us? There are currently no “rule books” for how a marriage between two men could or should work. While there are lots of books about how to plan your gay wedding, there are virtually none that address what to do after the honeymoon is over (literally and figuratively).

This book fills that void. It offers married gay couples (and gay men considering marriage) an easy-to-follow, practical framework that they can use to help create, adjust and structure their marriages. Using helpful examples and first-hand quotes throughout, Openly-gay psychotherapist Michael Dale Kimmel offers a roadmap for gay men who want to be married but have questions and concerns about monogamy and monotony.

Introduction
Section 1: Unique Challenges for Gay Marriages
1: Designing your Marriage
2: Conflict and Competition
3: Redefining Gender-based Roles
4: Soul Mates, Family and Community Support
Section 2: Exploring Open Marriage
5: Sexual Freedom and Expression
6 : Negotiating Jealousy and Insecurity
7: Creating and Adjusting to an Open Marriage
8: Balancing Sexual Expression with Emotional Connection
Section 3: Exploring Monogamy
9: Sex, Monogamy and “The Three-Year Itch”
10: Keeping Monogamy Lively: Balancing Emotional Stability with Spontaneity
11: The Art of Not Merging/How Not to Lose Yourself
Conclusion/Summary

Product details

Published	09 Jun 2017
Format	Ebook (Epub & Mobi)
Edition	1st
Extent	300
ISBN	9781442268029
Imprint	Rowman & Littlefield Publishers
Publisher	Bloomsbury Publishing

Author

Michael Dale Kimmel

This book obviously has some meaning to this reviewer as a gay man in a relationship for nearly 50 years. Many more likely will be written in the future as marriage is reshaped to suit the social and legal standing of straight, gay male, and lesbian relationships. One assumption is that the three categories are separate, and those who identify with a particular one will have different experiences and seek different things from marriage.The format is interesting, with boxes highlighting topics for discussion and thought. The author, a psychotherapist, has also relied on the exchanges in advice columns that he has written over the years, and the text includes some of these letters and his responses. Such stylistic decisions make the book an interesting read and lighter in some ways than might be expected. Summing Up: Recommended. High school through undergraduate students; general readers; professionals/practitioners.

Choice Reviews
Engaging, candid and filled with insightful practical advice, Kimmel’s The Gay Man's Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage is a timely, compassionate invitation to challenge cultural norms and forge our own ways of loving.

David Charles Manners, author of Limitless Sky
The Gay Man's Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage is a valuable look in to the unique challenges that gay male marriages face. Kimmel is refreshingly frank and most importantly, he understands and navigates the nuances of male-male relationships.

Craig Laurance Gidney, Two-Time Lambda Literary Award Finalist
For the gay man who's married, going to be married, or in a dating relationship, Michael Dale Kimmel gives an honest, insightful, and fun look at how to make sex, love, conflict, and competition work--both in and out of bed.

Alex Sanchez, author of Rainbow Boys
A complete guide to what gay men experience in relationships. Finally, a book on sexual relationships, just for us.

Adam D. Blum, MFT, Founder and Director, Gay Therapy Center
Finally, an intelligent, compassionate guide to help navigate the complex waters of sexuality in gay relationships! Filled with insights, secrets, and practical tools, this groundbreaking work will help you forge a path to love and intimacy that truly works for you.

Mark Matousek, author of Sex Death Enlightenment and When You're Falling, Dive