With Sex When You Don't Feel Like It, Cyndi Darnell cuts through the destructive and incorrect messaging about sex, desire, and libido and provides a practical, helpful, and needed guide to intimate self-discovery.

Dr. Jen Gunter, New York Times-bestselling author

Sex When Your Don't Feel Like It reads like an entrancing novel filled with poetic imagery and prose that will want to be read again and then again. This up to the minute collection of sexual truths, knowledge, and practical exercises will playfully activate your curiosity for taking a deep dive into the depths of your own erotic desires and those of the sexual partners who bring their desires to you. Cyndi Darnell has written the consummate guide for discovering the many meanings and pleasures that are awaiting to become known within our human sexual and erotic desires.

Doug Braun-Harvey, LMFT, author, trainer, and psychotherapist

Forget everything you think you know about sex and relationships and read Sex When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth about Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire. Cyndi Darnell has written the consummate guide to getting your groove back that will transform the way you see your relationship with desire and how it shows up in your life. Cyndi Darnell deftly breaks down why many of us have discordant sexual desire and long for more intimacy in our relationships, and challenges many long held beliefs while offering up a new paradigm for (re)building the sustainable, pleasurable, and rich relationships that we all crave.

Elle Chase, author of “Curvy Girl Sex”

Sex When You Don't Feel Like It is a much-needed alternative to the standard sex advice literature. Cyndi Darnell brings her wealth of sexological and therapeutic expertise to bear on the all-too-common experience of mismatched desires-both with partners and with our own expectations. Rather than pushing anyone towards a cookie cutter version of what sex should look like, she guides us in opening up our erotic imaginations, and how we might communicate these-verbally and physically-with ourselves and others. A refreshing read packed with genuinely helpful information and advice.

Meg-John Barker, author of “A Practical Guide to Sex”

With disarming good humor and the kind of frank language you'd want to hear from someone talking to you about what the hell is going on with your sex drive, Cyndi Darnell asks the right questions to help unlock the dusty, old attic you've kept your erotic desires locked up in. And she does this for you no matter your gender, sexuality, age, or relationship status. Um, wow.

Kate Bornstein, author of “Gender Outlaw”

This is the book I've been waiting for! Cyndi Darnell shatters the myth of “normal” sex, and cuts through the blame-and-shame game of mismatched desires in this essential, optimistic book. Whatever your gender identity, sexual preferences, or relationship style, you'll delight in Cyndi's no-nonsense, humor-filled approach to sex-no platitudes, no diagnoses, no right and wrong. Just a get-real guide to expanding your vision of your own sexuality and sharing it with others with meaning, joy, and ease.

Barbara Carrellas, author of “Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century” and “Ecstasy is Necessary”