Understanding Ruptured Mother-Daughter Relationships: Guiding the Adult Daughter's Healing Journey through the Estrangement Energy Cycle: Khara Croswaite Brindle: Rowman & Littlefield Publishers

Understanding Ruptured Mother-Daughter Relationships

Guiding the Adult Daughter's Healing Journey through the Estrangement Energy Cycle

Understanding Ruptured Mother-Daughter Relationships

Guiding the Adult Daughter's Healing Journey through the Estrangement Energy Cycle

Description

How can therapists feel prepared to address the possible treatment focus of ruptured maternal relationships in the therapeutic space? Depending on the client, the goal of therapy may be to repair an estranged maternal relationship or to finalize parental estrangement and redefine themself. This book focuses on identifying the estrangement cycle for clinical application with adult women clients by mental health professionals. It provides clinical tools to address the challenges of estrangement and adjustment needs of these clients within the spheres of personal identity, relationships, and grief and loss to promote personal growth and healing in the therapeutic space. It also engages readers by illustrating different stages of estrangement through client vignettes and by providing practical tools for mental health professionals to create a supportive and nonjudgmental space. With this resource, clinicians and clients will feel better equipped with the skills needed to tackle the emotional rollercoaster that is Estrangement Energy.
The companion resource website can be found here: https://www.estrangementenergycycle.com/

Introduction
Structure
Identity Protection
Author Experience
CHAPTER 1: Estrangement Defined
Terms of Estrangement
Physical Versus Emotional Estrangement
Family Frequency of Estrangement
Sibling Estrangement
The Stigma of Estrangement
Mother-Daughter Estrangement
Warning Signs for Daughters
Warning Signs for Mothers
Cultural Considerations
Clinical Considerations
Estrangement Explained
CHAPTER 2: Long-Term Effects of Estrangement
Symptoms of Estrangement
Impact on Partners
Impact on Siblings
Impact on Children
Impact on Other Family Members
Impact on Friends and Community Members
CHAPTER 3: Assumptions About Estrangement
Selfishness
Suddenness
Therapist Recommendation
Exaggerated Trauma
Refusal to Reconcile
Too Much Toxic
False Memories
Mental Health Problems
Control Over Grandchildren
CHAPTER 4: A Woman’s Worth
Mother-Child Attachment
Partner Attachment
Attachment Trauma
Abuse
Neglect
Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)
CHAPTER 5: Introduction to the Estrangement Energy Cycle
Figure 5.1. The Estrangement Energy Cycle
CHAPTER 6: Cycle of Abuse
Power and Control
Gaslighting
Financial Abuse
Generational Trauma
Minimizing
Scapegoating
Caregiving
Defective/Denial
Superior Parenting
CHAPTER 7: Questioning
Shame and Guilt
Negative Core Beliefs
Self-Doubt
Emotion Dysregulation
The Burden of Busyness
Active Avoidance
Self-Criticism
Suicidal Ideation
Perfectionism
CHAPTER 8: Relationship Rupture
CHAPTER 9: Therapeutic Tools for Estrangement Energy
Shutting Down the Inner Critic
Experiencing Anticipatory Grief
Challenging Ambivalence
Exploring Forgiveness
Understanding the Fight-or-Flight Response
Addressing Elevated Anxiety
Watching for Warning Signs
Exploring EMDR
Staying Present
CHAPTER 10: Grief and Loss
CHAPTER 11: Discovering Sense of Self
Successful Self
Trauma Personification
Identity Formation
Sobriety Versus Recovery
Compassionate Touch
Reconciled Relationship
Positive Role Model
Professional Helper
Safe Space
CHAPTER 12: Deeper Work
Theme #1: What Happened Is a Part of Me, But Doesn’t Define Me
Theme #2: I Know and Trust Myself
Theme #3: I Can Change This Trauma Legacy for My Children
CHAPTER 13: Redefining Self-Worth
CHAPTER 14: Revisiting the Cycle
Figure 14.1. The Estrangement Energy Cycle
CHAPTER 15: Treating Men Who Are Estranged
CHAPTER 16: Clinical Competencies in Estrangement
Assessment
Professionalism
Intervention
CHAPTER 17: When Someone You Know Is Estranged
For Partners
For Parents
Readiness for Reconciliation
Parent Dynamics
Shared Grief
Supporting Self-Awareness
For Siblings
For Friends and Community Members
DO
DON’T
CHAPTER 18: Dating and Estrangement 121
CHAPTER 19: Life After Estrangement 127
CHAPTER 20: A Final Look at Estrangement Energy
Appendix A: Warning Signs in the Mother-Daughter Relationship
Appendix B: The Estrangement Energy Cycle
Appendix C: Estrangement Energy Therapeutic Tools
Exercise 7.1. Negative Core Beliefs Tree
Exercise 7.2. Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) Wise Mind
Exercise 9.1. Inner Critic Personification
Exercise 9.2. Letter of Divorce
Exercise 9.3. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Best–Worst–Most Likely
Exercise 9.4. Trauma Family Tree
Exercise 9.5. 5-4-3-2-1
Exercise 9.6. Thought-Stopping Technique
Exercise 9.7. Watch Your Warning Signs
Exercise 9.8. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Resource List
Exercise 9.9. Five Senses Coping Kit
Exercise 11.1. Successful Self-Visualization
Exercise 11.2. Trauma Personification
Exercise 11.3. Who Am I Reflection
Exercise 11.4. Self-Portrait Exercise
Exercise 11.5. Compassionate Touch Exercise
Exercise 11.6. Power Poses (Courtesy of Amy Cuddy)
Exercise 11.7. Mindful Walking
Exercise 11.8. Wellness Recovery Action Plan (WRAP)
Exercise 11.9. Safe Space
Exercise 12.1. Thought Diffusion
Exercise 12.2. Container Exercise
Exercise 12.3. Internal Family Systems (IFS) Self-Meditation
Exercise 14.1. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) Tapping
Appendix D: Estrangement Clinical Competencies and Self-Assessment
Appendix E: Group Processing Questions
For Therapeutic Groups
For Book Club Discussion
References
Index
About the Author

Product details

Published	23 Jun 2023
Format	Paperback
Edition	1st
Extent	184
ISBN	9781538174036
Imprint	Rowman & Littlefield Publishers
Illustrations	5 b/w illustrations; 24 textboxes
Dimensions	222 x 157 mm
Publisher	Bloomsbury Publishing

A compassionate approach to an issue that is too often seen as taboo and uncomfortable, Khara Croswaite Brindle's book is an essential guide and must-read for clinicians, therapists, life coaches, and other mental health professionals who work with adult daughters estranged from their mothers. Understanding Ruptured Mother-Daughter Relationships thoroughly explores the aptly named Estrangement Energy Cycle through the experiences of several of the author's clients and offers therapeutic tools and practices. This book will also be helpful to anyone who knows, cares about, or loves an adult daughter who is estranged from her mother.

Karen C. L. Anderson, author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration and You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame
I sincerely recommend Understanding Ruptured Mother-Daughter Relationships: Guiding the Adult Daughter's Healing Journey through the Estrangement Energy Cycle for anyone in the mental health field working with adult clients. This book offers a detailed look at the many different catalysts for adult daughters to end their relationships with their mothers through nine different case studies as well as through the current research on this topic. The case studies allow a mental health professional to step outside of their current perceptions of what causes these types of ruptures by sharing the many different nuances that can play a part. Khara Croswaite Brindle offers a framework and tangible strategies to work with clients considering estrangement from their mother through the Estrangement Energy Cycle. This framework provides mental health professionals with a way to conceptualize these cases and walk alongside their clients to determine their best next steps on their healing journeys.

Sybil Cummin, MA, LPC, ACS, Arvada Therapy Solutions, PLLC
This book is simply outstanding. I am impressed with Khara Croswaite Brindle’s thorough and engaging writing style, which provides insight and application for healing the wounds of maternal estrangement and difficult mother-daughter relationships. Croswaite Brindle shows passion in writing this book and uses a hope-filled approach to address a difficult topic. As a professional counselor specializing in relationships, I highly recommend Understanding Ruptured Mother-Daughter Relationships to mental healthcare providers and those desiring to experience hope and healing.

Rebecca S. Trouse, MA, LPC, NCC, BCPCC
Understanding Ruptured Mother-Daughter Relationships addresses the complex traumatic fallout when this primary relationship disintegrates. It maintains a delicate neutrality that allows for a range of outcomes including permanent estrangement and the path forward. This is a deeply insightful contribution to our understanding of these dynamics.

Barbara Forgue, LPC, Center For Human Potential
This book is written specifically for clinicians, therapists, life coaches, and other mental and community health professionals who work with adult daughters estranged from their mothers. It is an excellent resource for anyone who knows, cares about, or loves an adult daughter who is estranged from her mother. While it’s almost a cliche for therapists to ask a client to talk about their relationship with their mother, there were few clinical guidelines or practical resources for these helping professionals. The book thoroughly explores the aptly named Estrangement Energy Cycle through the experiences of several of the author's clients and offers therapeutic tools and practices that are easy for anyone to use.

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