You love your child so much, but they seem to be suffering. What more can you do? Simple: Adjust what you can adjust-you! This very compassionate, non-shaming, real-world guide will tell you how.

Lenore Skenazy, president of Let Grow, author of Free-Range Kids

The Parenting Paradox equips parents to dial back anxiety, stay grounded, and thoughtfully make space for their kids to grow. Blending clinical expertise, real-life case studies, and actionable advice to guide readers in self-reflection and intentional parenting, this book offers invaluable insight for anyone seeking a more satisfying, meaningful connection with their children.

Darby Saxbe, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of Southern California and author of Dad Brain: The New Science of Fatherhood

The Parenting Paradox is a rare, refreshing antidote to intensive parenting culture. Dr. Brown invites parents to shift from fixing their children to growing themselves, offering a calm, steady path toward clarity, confidence, and genuine connection at home.

Bryana Kappadakunnel, author of Parent Yourself First

This is an important book for parents-and for all who work with them. The point about easing pressure on kids is vital, and this book adds concrete advice on how parents can do so, grounded in the author's research and clinical experience. Such guidance has been largely missing from previous discussions, and I sincerely believe it can move the conversation forward.

Peter N. Stearns, co-author of The American Child: The Transformation of Childhood Since World War II, professor emeritus at George Mason University

When a parent makes themselves the project, and not the child, everyone is freed up to be a little more responsible for themselves. Differentiation-based parenting is for anyone who wants to relate to their child from a more solid, principled position.

Kathleen Smith, PhD, author of True to You and Everything Isn't Terrible